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 Posted:   Jun 18, 2013 - 8:01 PM   
 By:   Senn555   (Member)

http://xojane.com/it-happened-to-me/disney-rape

 
 
 Posted:   Jun 18, 2013 - 8:11 PM   
 By:   Joe E.   (Member)

Yikes.

 
 Posted:   Jun 18, 2013 - 9:03 PM   
 By:   solium   (Member)

To be honest, I feel more violated by the way Disney treated me than I feel from being raped

Sorry, this young lady lost all credibility with her very first sentence.

 
 Posted:   Jun 18, 2013 - 9:27 PM   
 By:   Senn555   (Member)

No, she didn't.

 
 
 Posted:   Jun 19, 2013 - 12:07 AM   
 By:   Michael24   (Member)

To be honest, I feel more violated by the way Disney treated me than I feel from being raped

Yes, what a ridiculous statement.

 
 
 Posted:   Jun 19, 2013 - 12:49 AM   
 By:   CindyLover   (Member)

That is AWFUL.

For some reason stories like this always seem to be worse when other women (like the ones she told about it) try to basically brush it aside. mad I hope the bastard (excuse the language) gets caught.

 
 
 Posted:   Jun 19, 2013 - 3:41 AM   
 By:   Disco Stu   (Member)

To be honest, I feel more violated by the way Disney treated me than I feel from being raped

Sorry, this young lady lost all credibility with her very first sentence.


Totally disagree. The crime committed on her was very bad but when you are a victim of a crime you know it's a terrible thing that's done to you and that you can't change anything about it from making it less bad. When you expect help, however you expect something good to get you over that pain. So when it turns out that the help is at best a cold shoulder, it's a massive shock that can really change your views on society. After all you know you can expect bad things to come from bad people but you don't expect bad things to come from the ones that should do good. It's like "Invaders from Mars" the boy runs for help to the institutions he trusts most and the shock to him and the viewer is that they are the enemy too.

That the girl was even willing to forgive her rapist shows, to me at least, that she has a gentle mind so I can imagine that she is very shocked and even feels violated by the hostile attitude.

D.S.

 
 
 Posted:   Jun 19, 2013 - 4:01 AM   
 By:   Joe 1956   (Member)

And just what kind of web site is that, and why should I take it seriously?


"xoJane.com is where women go when they are being selfish, and where their selfishness is applauded.


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 Posted:   Jun 19, 2013 - 4:11 AM   
 By:   Francis   (Member)

You left out "IHTM: Doctors Told My Boyfriend He Had A Year To Live, But He Survived, And Then He Dumped Me" big grin

In all seriousness, I feel for the girl haven been raped BUT Disney is not at fault here, unless Disney World includes that dude's apartment. She also made too many mistakes of not reporting earlier, acting like nothing happened, ... Very hard to make any case against someone so long after the fact and with alcohol involved.

 
 Posted:   Jun 19, 2013 - 4:20 AM   
 By:   mastadge   (Member)

To be honest, I feel more violated by the way Disney treated me than I feel from being raped

Sorry, this young lady lost all credibility with her very first sentence.


Sorry, but you don't get to decide how people should feel about what they've experienced. "She prioritizes her trauma wrongly, and thus has no credibility?" Really?

 
 Posted:   Jun 19, 2013 - 4:44 AM   
 By:   solium   (Member)

To be honest, I feel more violated by the way Disney treated me than I feel from being raped

Sorry, this young lady lost all credibility with her very first sentence.


Sorry, but you don't get to decide how people should feel about what they've experienced. "She prioritizes her trauma wrongly, and thus has no credibility?" Really?


Seriously? Don't be so gullible. What does Disney have to do with this anyway? She went to a party. Their not law enforcement. Her lawyers see a multi billion dollar company and see $$$$ signs. Would this lady even mention her employer otherwise?

 
 
 Posted:   Jun 19, 2013 - 5:04 AM   
 By:   Joe 1956   (Member)

You left out "IHTM: Doctors Told My Boyfriend He Had A Year To Live, But He Survived, And Then He Dumped Me" big grin

Shame on me. smile (That one seemed out of place, more tame, believe it or not).

Admittedly I've not read the story and won't. The site reeks of Enquirer style crap that beckons while you're in the checkout of Wal-Mart. But to be fair, so do the Alphabet Evening News nowadays.

 
 Posted:   Jun 19, 2013 - 5:45 AM   
 By:   mastadge   (Member)

Seriously? Don't be so gullible. What does Disney have to do with this anyway? She went to a party. Their not law enforcement. Her lawyers see a multi billion dollar company and see $$$$ signs. Would this lady even mention her employer otherwise?

Disney's part in the story is that when she, as a Disney employee, turned to a counselor in their Disney's Employee Assistance Program -- also a Disney employee -- for guidance after having been raped, she received no support but rather some victim-blaming. Then, when she decided to follow-up on that inappropriate encounter, she found that there was no formal procedure for a Disney employee to report sexual assault to the company. She's not blaming Disney for her rape; she is condemning Disney for a failure to do anything but blame her when she, as one of their employees, was raped by another employee in housing that was, apparently, on company property.

And you accuse me of gullibility(?) even as you make things up wholesale. Is there anywhere that she mentions lawyers or any sort of litigation? If she was filing a lawsuit, I guarantee you her lawyers would very strongly advise against a piece like this, which leads me to believe she is not. She states that she expected that Disney, a family-friendly business employing many young adults, would be interested in dealing with it when their employees are assaulted.

 
 Posted:   Jun 19, 2013 - 7:55 AM   
 By:   solium   (Member)

The Walt Disney World Resort in Orlando, Florida employees more than 65,000 cast members. According to an online search. (Take it for what its worth) Yet, they have absolutely no system in place to report or resolve employee abuse? roll eyes

 
 
 Posted:   Jun 19, 2013 - 8:01 AM   
 By:   Octoberman   (Member)

I skimmed the article (which practically screams tabloid-drama). Why didn't she go to the police and press charges? (Or did she and I just missed that little detail?)

A company counselor is the same as the group that enforces the law?

 
 Posted:   Jun 19, 2013 - 12:08 PM   
 By:   Senn555   (Member)

And just what kind of web site is that, and why should I take it seriously?

"xoJane.com is where women go when they are being selfish, and where their selfishness is applauded.
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Please excuse me while I go find my sides.

 
 
 Posted:   Jun 21, 2013 - 10:32 AM   
 By:   John B. Archibald   (Member)

After reading her account, I was struck by the number of mixed signals that were given. She goes to the party, she and he both drink, they go back to his place, they drink more.

At any moment during all that, she could have stopped.

Reminds me of how people in the 50's used to react when drunk drivers caused deaths: they used to say, "It was the alcohol."


 
 Posted:   Jun 21, 2013 - 4:12 PM   
 By:   Sirusjr   (Member)

The headline is totally misleading. Nobody was raped in the park surrounded by spectators. Yes rape is bad but I also see some sense in the "don't go back to the guy's apartment if you aren't interested in sex" part too. I've never experienced that specific situation but if I went home with someone from a bar I would expect that there would be sex involved at some point. It doesn't make it right for him to rape her.

So the Disney counselors don't know how to talk to rape victims. Maybe this will prompt them getting some training in the subject. That doesn't make their response completely outrageous or show lack of caring. The typical response to someone involved with domestic violence if you don't have the proper training is similarly improper. Since this isn't a rape clinic or domestic violence clinic it isn't surprising that they didn't have the proper training.

 
 Posted:   Jun 21, 2013 - 4:19 PM   
 By:   Dyfrynt   (Member)

delete

 
 Posted:   Jun 21, 2013 - 4:33 PM   
 By:   Dyfrynt   (Member)

I had just posted a comment that pretty much mirrored Sirisjur. But upon re-reading the story I saw the Disney connection I missed the first run through. Apparently this woman was living in a Disney style campus; that is, dorms for employees.

This changes everything. If she was raped at one of the dorms on the Disney campus, she most certainly was raped on Disney property. If this is true, Disney had a responsibility to treat the claim seriously and an obligation to investigate the claim fully. They completely dropped the ball here.

For justice though, she still has to go to the police. Disney could fire the employee, but that is the most they could do.

 
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