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 Posted:   Dec 19, 2013 - 4:37 PM   
 By:   joan hue   (Member)

Let’s talk about the best gifts to give and receive.

I’d like, “Peace on earth and good will to all People.” Doubt that I will ever get that gift.

I’d like all of us at FSM to give David Sones the best possible gift: at least one year free of
anyone having to push the “Report Abuse” button because NO one will name-call, trash-talk,
use put-downs, nor violate the no politics/religion rules. I know. I KNOW that I’m asking for the
9th Wonder Of The World, but I bet he would cherish such a gift as would Lukas.

It is nice time of the year to remember your favorite charities, if and only if, you haven’t fallen upon
harsh economic times. My husband just helped put together over a thousand donated new bikes for
needy children. We take toys to The Salvation Army, food to our local food banks, and write some checks to our favorite charities, and we still know it isn’t nearly enough.

Of course, I told Santa what three film scores I wanted for Christmas and that I’d been “fairly” good all year. My husband is great about buying me clothes, perfume or jewelry. Gentleman, if you have a wife or girlfriend, I suggest you avoid buying them vacuum cleaners, irons, crock pots, etc. I always told hubby that if I need those items, I’ll buy them. Need vs. want. I don’t want a frying pan for Christmas.
(Okay, so I’m guilty of giving my husband a fertilizer spreader one year on our anniversary, and he is
still haranguing me about that item. I now get him clothes, watches, golf items, etc.) Women also like
gift cards to spas. I love my gift cards to spas for facials, massages, etc. Those are luxury items I usually wouldn’t buy with my monthly budget. I love to give and receive bottles of great wine.

Tech gadgets are big, but I’m a tech idiot, so they don’t work for me, but they do for our younger relatives.

Other suggestions for giving and receiving?

 
 Posted:   Dec 19, 2013 - 4:50 PM   
 By:   mastadge   (Member)

I try not to get people "stuff" -- most of the people I know already have more than enough clutter! If there's something really personal to someone I'll get something, but more often than not these days I just make a donation to a charity in the person's honor. And, in the case of friends, something that can be shared: a nice bottle of wine, for instance.

For myself, there's really very little I want so I try to discourage people from getting me things.

I know, I know, I'm no fun.

 
 Posted:   Dec 19, 2013 - 5:14 PM   
 By:   Adam B.   (Member)

My niece's birthday (about to turn 8) is Dec. 20 so I get two gifts at a time. One for b'day, one for Christmas. I have found that it's helpful if you can remember what you have given a young person in the past because you can give a "sequel" or follow-up gift that goes with a previous gift. She wanted a microscope last year and I followed up with some (microscope) slides and a science book for Christmas. Worked like a charm.

I tell my parents and many siblings that if they insist on giving me something, then make it a food gift like those summer sausage & cheese boxes. Never fails to make my day.

 
 
 Posted:   Dec 19, 2013 - 5:30 PM   
 By:   joan hue   (Member)

mastadge, that is a great idea. We do have too much stuff, and a donation to someone's favorite charity is great. Adam, sequel is an marvelous idea. You can just keep building on and on.
And food is always loved, cheese, sausage, cookies, etc.

 
 Posted:   Dec 19, 2013 - 7:22 PM   
 By:   edwzoomom   (Member)

Let’s talk about the best gifts to give and receive.

I’d like, “Peace on earth and good will to all People.” Doubt that I will ever get that gift.

I’d like all of us at FSM to give David Sones the best possible gift: at least one year free of
anyone having to push the “Report Abuse” button because NO one will name-call, trash-talk,
use put-downs, nor violate the no politics/religion rules. I know. I KNOW that I’m asking for the
9th Wonder Of The World, but I bet he would cherish such a gift as would Lukas.

It is nice time of the year to remember your favorite charities, if and only if, you haven’t fallen upon
harsh economic times. My husband just helped put together over a thousand donated new bikes for
needy children. We take toys to The Salvation Army, food to our local food banks, and write some checks to our favorite charities, and we still know it isn’t nearly enough.

Of course, I told Santa what three film scores I wanted for Christmas and that I’d been “fairly” good all year. My husband is great about buying me clothes, perfume or jewelry. Gentleman, if you have a wife or girlfriend, I suggest you avoid buying them vacuum cleaners, irons, crock pots, etc. I always told hubby that if I need those items, I’ll buy them. Need vs. want. I don’t want a frying pan for Christmas.
(Okay, so I’m guilty of giving my husband a fertilizer spreader one year on our anniversary, and he is
still haranguing me about that item. I now get him clothes, watches, golf items, etc.) Women also like
gift cards to spas. I love my gift cards to spas for facials, massages, etc. Those are luxury items I usually wouldn’t buy with my monthly budget. I love to give and receive bottles of great wine.

Tech gadgets are big, but I’m a tech idiot, so they don’t work for me, but they do for our younger relatives.

Other suggestions for giving and receiving?


Each year I give my husband and two children something personal that I have put together. For example, one year my daughter raised a butterfly from a caterpillar that our neighbor had found in his yard. She patiently waited for it to emerge from from the chrysalis and one morning she came bursting into our bedroom with the most beautiful butterfly I had ever seen. We kept the butterfly safe in the house for a few weeks while it grew stronger and took copious pictures while it fed on the plants we provided - it loved the Easter Lily. We got very attached to it but released it and it flew away. For the following Christmas, I bought a photo album with a butterfly on the cover, filled it with the pictures we had taken of the experience and I wrote my daughter a love letter comparing her to the beautful butterfly she had patiently waited for.

I have done similar things for my husband and son. This year my son is receiving a framed collection of pictures of him from the time he started playing drums to the present. This has been fun. He gave me tons to chose from on the band's Facebook page and doesn't have a clue.

One year I took the lyrics of the song I used to sing to each baby. printed it out on special paper, framed it and gave it to each child.

This keeps it more personal for me and allows me to personalize a gift for each family member.

 
 
 Posted:   Dec 19, 2013 - 9:25 PM   
 By:   joan hue   (Member)

I LOVE the gifts you give to your children, Edw. Those personalized gifts capture their journeys into adulthood, and they will treasure those gifts as well as those memories. Great job.

 
 
 Posted:   Dec 19, 2013 - 9:26 PM   
 By:   joan hue   (Member)

So is there any way we can give David Sones the gift I suggested?

 
 Posted:   Dec 19, 2013 - 10:10 PM   
 By:   Mr Greg   (Member)

So many lovely sentiments already on this thread...hearwarming!

I know I am getting Superman Returns for Christmas...and a bottle of Valve Oil will do just nicely from my little one...this is my wife and I's first Christmas together as husband and wife (and our first in 6 years actually home, together!!), so all I hope for in addition to what I've already mentioned is a peaceful day. We have a rule for Xmas/Birthdays - "Nothing for the Kitchen", so all that is off the table (not that it would be on it anyway)...Wife is a bit of a Muso too, last birthday I got her a guitar amp, christmas before that it was a USB keyboard...BIT STUCK THIS YEAR!! But I do have an idea...or two...

Other than that, I'll be doing my usual charity stuff over the period and making sure some bellies of those less fortunate than me are full...and if anyone is at a loose end over the period I would so urge you to consider doing the same...the reward you get is well worth it.

 
 Posted:   Dec 19, 2013 - 11:01 PM   
 By:   Sirusjr   (Member)

I always prefer to give things that people will use. Though years in the past I tended to ask people for tech things I have been trying to limit myself to things I really can use.

This is the first year I actually figured out something to get my boyfriend for Christmas because in years past it was pretty difficult to figure out. Though the first year I had a lot of fun putting together a journal. I had been keeping a journal of all the things we did together since we met that September and went back and filled in as best I could the things we did together on those first few days we were together. He read through it and loved it.

Though last year I asked a few people together for mountain bikes for my boyfriend and me. The resulting bikes were awesome and I have found great use of them in the past year.

 
 
 Posted:   Dec 20, 2013 - 7:31 AM   
 By:   joan hue   (Member)

Mr Greg, you wrote some "heartwarming" ideas. Obviously, I concur with "Nothing for the kitchen."
I have to ask about two things you said. (Britishisms?) What is "Muso?" And you mention valve oil. We put that in our car engines. Same in the U.K.?

Sirusjr, if I could go back in my life, which I can't, I wish I had kept a journal for my family and their journeys. As we age, we forget those small but rich details, and a journals would have reminded us of those items. Such a great idea.

 
 
 Posted:   Dec 20, 2013 - 7:47 AM   
 By:   Graham S. Watt   (Member)

Interesting you should mention, joan, not giving vacuum cleaners, because that's precisely what my dear wife got me two years ago. Or is that OK because it's "wife to husband"? Needless to say, I didn't understand how to use it, so it's back in her capable hands. Last year she more than made up for that criminal error by getting me the 15-CD set of "Star Trek". It made her happy just to see the delight on my face, so I'm expecting something even better this year.

 
 Posted:   Dec 20, 2013 - 7:58 AM   
 By:   solium   (Member)

I believe gift giving at xmas time is about indulgence, not necessities. So no practical gifts. I like to give someone something they really want but can't afford, or was never in their budget to acquire on their own. A limited edition soundtrack, a book, a figurine, what ever. Of course for the needy, "useful" gifts make more sense. I prefer ppl not buy me gifts because they always get the wrong thing! (even when they ask for specifics) If I want something bad enough and can afford it, I'll get it myself.



 
 
 Posted:   Dec 20, 2013 - 8:24 AM   
 By:   joan hue   (Member)

Yeah, solium, I kind of like indulgence.

So Graham, she gave you a vacuum which you couldn't figure out so now it is back in her capable hands. Hmmmmmmm. I'd have given you lesson on how to use it so that I could avoid using it.wink However, I think gifts like CD's are better than household items anytime.

 
 Posted:   Dec 20, 2013 - 9:40 PM   
 By:   Mr Greg   (Member)

Mr Greg, you wrote some "heartwarming" ideas. Obviously, I concur with "Nothing for the kitchen."
I have to ask about two things you said. (Britishisms?) What is "Muso?" And you mention valve oil. We put that in our car engines. Same in the U.K.?


Thank you.

Sorry - "Muso" = Musician...bad shortening, but hear it quite a lot....

"Valve Oil" - for my Trumpet Valves....I insist on a relatively good quality and expensive brand for my baby...none of that Yamaha stuff! But I do mean RELATIVELY...even the "top" stuff is less than £10 a bottle, and I don't go that high....

 
 
 Posted:   Dec 21, 2013 - 7:17 AM   
 By:   joan hue   (Member)

Mr. Greg, thanks. Now I understand.

Let's have more of you chime in with getting and giving gifts.

 
 Posted:   Dec 21, 2013 - 7:39 AM   
 By:   First Breath   (Member)

I often tend to give books, games ("analogue" ones), movies or chocolate.

 
 Posted:   Dec 21, 2013 - 8:44 AM   
 By:   Adm Naismith   (Member)

For people who are hard to buy for, or don't want or need anything, I go to a grocery store like Trader Joe's and put together a box of nuts, dried fruit, fancy crackers, chocolate and what not. You'd be surprised how far even $20 goes in a situation like that. If I am particularly ambitious, I will bake fresh cookies and quick breads.
My father gets a well considered bottle of scotch or burbon.

 
 
 Posted:   Dec 21, 2013 - 9:17 AM   
 By:   joan hue   (Member)

Adam, I have a son-in-law who loves unique foods that I buy at a place like Trader Joes. I know I'm not wasting money. He loves food. FB, this is the first year I will give DVD movies to people. I don't know why I didn't think of it before, but they will love the series I bought them.

 
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