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Jul 30, 2006 - 7:35 PM
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Thor
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To elaborate a bit on my "Go out and PARTAAAAY!" comment from earlier:
I've spent this entire weekend with a girl I met at a TV award ceremony in May. We hit it off immediately, and we've been swimming, doing picnics in the park, having barbecues, checking out the night life and just enjoyed ourselves these last two days. While I wouldn't label her my girlfriend just yet, we're getting there.
So how did I meet her? Well, I was out with a few friends at a pub back in May, and some idiots pulled away the chairs right in front of us as we entered so we had to look for somewhere else to sit. We spotted some available chairs by a table which also housed two lovely girls (one of which was the girl in question), and we asked politely to sit down on the other side. They accepted, we started talking and then it went from there.
So you may say: A-ha, so everything is just coincidence and it's really nothing I can do? Not true. Although you don't have to go out for wild parties (as I jokingly remarked earlier), you can always just go out with a few friends to relax and have a few beers. The point is to GET OUT and be as confident as possible (no matter what you look like). It sounds easy and it really IS easy. What may be problematic for some is to GET TO THAT POINT; to make that decision.
NP: ON THE BEACH (Gordon)
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Hiring an escort for sometime next week.
Wish me luck! 
When is it?
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Since I sent an e-mail last Wednesday and havn't gotten any response as of yet, it looks like it won't happen after all. 
That's sad. Good luck, though.
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FIVE YEARS LATER...
I suck.
You are your own worst enemy.
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Mar 19, 2011 - 5:13 AM
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mastadge
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Especially when one is 32, not very good-looking, still lives at home with mom, has no car, and is painfully shy around attractive women?
None of these things is a problem except for the last one. Lots of people live at home -- even more now than when this thread was originally created, thanks to the economy. Lots of people have no car. But really the only way to deal with the painfully shy business: (1) get out and meet people. Live with the self-consciousness, the mortification, whatever the symptoms of your shyness are. The more you socialize, the easier it'll get. And the more you socialize, the more likely you are not only to meet women compatible with you, but to meet other people who might know women they think you'd get on with. Plus, the more you do, the more interesting a person you are, which makes you a more attractive prospect. In fact, maybe don't even think about "getting a girlfriend". Put it out of your mind, find things you enjoy, meet others who enjoy them. Every romance movie ever'll tell you that you won't find a match as long as you're desperately searching; it's only when you're not looking, and who you're not looking for. (2) Get the word "attractive" out of there. If you're admittedly not very good-looking, then unless you have something else going for you, you're not doing yourself any favors only trying to meet people out of your league. People become more attractive, the more you like them. So don't worry about finding attractive women, just meet people in general. There'll be some whom you wouldn't look at twice at first whom you'll get to know and find very attractive, and some whom you'd give your left nut for at first whom you won't be able to stand once you get to know them. The more people you meet, the better you'll learn how to handle social situations, and the easier it will become to meet new people -- plus the increased confidence will make you a more attractive person.
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Still, that's some good advice that I could use. 
