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 Posted:   Aug 1, 2013 - 4:27 AM   
 By:   Tall Guy   (Member)

Our cat practically lives outside during the warmer months, coming in only to vary her diet occasionally from small wild creatures and to remind us that we actually work for her. I'm relieved every time I go downstairs in the morning to see her curled up under the hedge.

We figure that to stop her doing what she loves would be harder for us to live with than the constant worry that she'll come to grief. Losing a beloved pet is a cruel blow.



 Posted:   Aug 1, 2013 - 5:34 AM   
 By:   Thor   (Member)

We/I never had a pet in my life, except a fish tank in my room for one year in the mid 80s, so I probably can't relate like everyone else here.

However, many of my friends have had cats and dogs, and I've seen how strong the bond between them is. I've seen the sadness in them when the pets have died.

You have my sympathies, Mike!

 Posted:   Aug 1, 2013 - 8:16 AM   
 By:   Josh   (Member)

Very sorry to hear that, Mike. I know that losing a furry friend can be very difficult, especially when it happens suddenly and unexpectedly like that. My deepest condolences.

 Posted:   Aug 1, 2013 - 11:19 AM   
 By:   TominAtl   (Member)

Mike, I am so very sorry to hear about your beloved buddy Japer. That is an extremely cute pic, and I love his colors and face.

As many of us attest here, we all have lost a beloved 4 legged best friend, be it cat or dog. I have lost several over the years too as you and there are 2 in particular that were harder to deal with than the others, just as you with Japer.

Grieve as much and as long as you need to. There is no time limit. But more importantly, do not feel guilty or 2nd guess yourself or put yourself to blame. By the mere fact that you took him in, gave him food, shelter and love Japer was overall extraordinarily fortunate in the world of domestic felines.

My sincerest sympathies go out to you.

 Posted:   Aug 1, 2013 - 11:36 AM   
 By:   Alexander Zambra   (Member)

Have a hard time giving you condolences. It's just quite painful.
Tuxedo cats are my favorites.
May he rest in kitty heaven and hope you're consoled soon.
Best wishes

 Posted:   Aug 1, 2013 - 11:37 AM   
 By:   eriknelson   (Member)

I'm very sorry, Mike.

Allow me to share something that brought me comfort when my cats died:

Just this side of heaven is a place called Rainbow Bridge.

When an animal dies that has been especially close to someone here, that pet goes to Rainbow Bridge.
There are meadows and hills for all of our special friends so they can run and play together.
There is plenty of food, water and sunshine, and our friends are warm and comfortable.

All the animals who had been ill and old are restored to health and vigor; those who were hurt or maimed are made whole and strong again, just as we remember them in our dreams of days and times gone by.
The animals are happy and content, except for one small thing; they each miss someone very special to them, who had to be left behind.

They all run and play together, but the day comes when one suddenly stops and looks into the distance. His bright eyes are intent; His eager body quivers. Suddenly he begins to run from the group, flying over the green grass, his legs carrying him faster and faster.

You have been spotted, and when you and your special friend finally meet, you cling together in joyous reunion, never to be parted again. The happy kisses rain upon your face; your hands again caress the beloved head, and you look once more into the trusting eyes of your pet, so long gone from your life but never absent from your heart.

Then you cross Rainbow Bridge together....

Author unknown

That poem makes me cry every time I read it.

Mike, sincere condolences to you. Japer's picture hit close to home because I also have a black and white shorthair. She showed up unannounced in my back yard as a six week old kitten and I couldn't resist. Her name is Marlene (after Marlene Dietrich) because she's a tuxedo cat. She spends a lot of time outdoors in her little wilderness, and I worry about calamities that might befall her. Although it would give me peace of mind to keep her indoors, I know she would be unhappy being cooped up. So I savor each day when I call her and she races into the house for a meal and a nap. I guess the point of my message is that Japer was no doubt a happy cat thanks to you and she enjoyed her life doing the things kitties do outdoors. If Marlene meets the same fate I know I will be devastated, but at least I'll know she enjoyed her time on this planet.

 Posted:   Aug 1, 2013 - 5:58 PM   
 By:   dan the man   (Member)

Sorry to hear this, I know exactly how you feel. I have lost dozens of them and how we do treat them often like humans and members of the family. If it takes a month or two to get over the lost of each one I guess I have spent nearly 2 years of my life in mourning. Man these things add up.

 Posted:   Aug 2, 2013 - 11:28 AM   
 By:   Mike_J   (Member)

I just wanted to thank each and everyone of you who posted a reply for all your kind words and support. It is really touching.

Its been a tough week. When I'm working at home, Jape used to come into my office around about tea time to remind me to feed him. If I was busy, he would jump on the desk and stand in front of the monitor so I had no choice but to give him his tea ( see photo) and the last couple of days I've expected to see him.

But thanks again for all your really touching support. It just goes to prove what a kind bunch of folk movie music buffs are.

Thank you.

 Posted:   Aug 2, 2013 - 4:17 PM   
 By:   manderley   (Member)

.....Its been a tough week. When I'm working at home, Jape used to come into my office around about tea time to remind me to feed him. If I was busy, he would jump on the desk and stand in front of the monitor so I had no choice but to give him his tea ( see photo) and the last couple of days I've expected to see him.....

I know the feeling well. One of ours is gone for only about six weeks now and I still think of her and plan to get her dinner when I feed the others. For awhile you will likely continue to "see" him in your immediate thoughts, and feel his presence. Later, he will become a warm memory.

The worst time comes in your daily schedule at times when you were used to doing things for them. We somehow forget that we don't run kitties lives, but instead, they often set our schedules for us and make it known to us when we've failed to meet our proper tending or feeding requirements. If you are one with your animals they actually do talk to you in their way, and if you are sensitive to them, you know exactly what they want.

Nonetheless, I've always wished our animals could talk to us---really talk.

 Posted:   Aug 2, 2013 - 5:29 PM   
 By:   Gordon Reeves   (Member)



 Posted:   Aug 3, 2013 - 10:41 AM   
 By:   shureman   (Member)

Your cat Japer was almost a dead-ringer for our late cat, Alice who was hit by a car and died last September. Very sorry for your loss as I too, love cats...

 Posted:   Aug 3, 2013 - 12:54 PM   
 By:   edwzoomom   (Member)


I am so sorry to read of the loss of your beautiful boy Japer. As I read your post, my heart broke and I cried like a baby. Too many of us here know and feel your pain. I hope you will feel better as each day passes. Your pain will be eased as each day goes by but your memories of Japer will grow stronger. I was given this poem when we lost 2 kitties 8 days apart some 3 years ago. I hope it helps a bit.

"With Sympathy"

They will not go quietly,
the pets who've shared our lives.
In subtle ways they let us know
their spirit still survives.

Old habits still can make us think
we hear them at the door
Or step back when we drop
a tasty morsel on the floor.

Our feet still go around the place
the food dish used to be,
And, sometimes, coming home at night,
we miss them terribly.

And although time may bring new friends
and a new food dish to fill,
That one place in our hearts
belongs to them...
and always will.

– Author unknown

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